[tmtranscripts] Abraham 8-6-01

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MEETING WITH ABRAHAM -- EXERCISE OF ASSUMPTION
AUGUST 6, 2001
WOODS CROSS GROUP

I am ABRAHAM. Greetings. I must commend you on your interaction this
evening. You had the courage to move beyond your level of comfort to bring
your differences out into the open. Yes, it did create discomfort, but also
solutions in how to deal with difficulties concerning your fellows. Well
done. This is spiritual reality. This is where God resides. This is where
lifelong bonds are made. God is not really out in the churches of rampant
emotionalism, no. He is in the details of living. He is the guide to all
healing.

I have discussed this before, but I will touch upon it a bit anyway. One of
the common difficulties in marriage is the exercise of assumption. Partners
never really allow total communication and understanding because there is
always assumption occurring. You may mistakenly assume your friend/partner
is thinking much worse thoughts about you than is really true. Especially
those with little or no self-esteem will assume everyone has the worst
intentions for them as if they are not really worthy of love, respect, time
and kindness.

During the course of an individuals lifetime events will happen that shape
the personality and also the ego. Some build a tremendous ego to cover
insecurity. Some feel totally unworthy of any good thing. So when events are
occurring in the present time, these past negative memories come into play,
and most likely individuals will try to defend themselves as if it will heal
the past. Some will build walls of defense as if it will deter all pain and
their hearts become hard.

With every individual you interact with it is more likely than not they are
also attempting to heal past pain. So you see, difficulties become a part of
something much bigger. Circumstances that you would not find particularly
painful may be very much so to others, and this is where you can be an
understanding helpmate. You can calmly ask questions that may find the real
reason for the problem to be overblown.

Remember the Master in His patience and kindness to His troubled fellows. He
sought to be a teammate, who brainstormed to help bring out issues and begin
problem solving. He did not seek a place above His troubled fellows as if He
knew all, no. He sought to stand side-by-side as a loving brother who found
it His utmost honor to assist His fellows. Remember this in your
difficulties that some circumstances are really much larger than they appear
and offer your ear, your time. Father seeks to create healing and situations
may arise to create opportunity for healing.

You are correct when you speak of commitment and staying together and
working through your difficulties. I understand there will be hurt feelings
and emotional distress, but if you can remain calm and focus on uncovering
the real heart of a problem, you can begin to work towards healing. Try not
to assume that you know what is in anybody's heart and mind. You do not.
This why communication is so important.

Discussing and really listening, and not worrying about another underlying
agenda, will get to the heart of matters. Do not be so self-protective that
you not only close out the threat of rejection, but also the life-giving
love. The ego seeks to be seen, heard and always right, but the soul seeks
acceptance in its uniqueness. You can communicate with others where you show
kindness and respect for them as a person/child of God, yes. You can want
for no less for yourself.

You will always view things differently and just make effort to expect that.
Do not make your difficulties out to be matters of right or wrong, but
opportunities to bring issues into the light for healing. Do not assume you
know what others are thinking because that is how you think. Allow time for
communication and real understanding. The ego seeks immediate gratification
and atonement for any disloyal action. Be watchful that ego does not
interfere with your opportunity for real communication, real understanding
beyond any emotionalism. The light of understanding is the feeling that
Father does know me and is involved in my life and is guiding me to a new
and better way.

This week find that freedom from assuming others thoughts and intention.
Look at this week as a week of discovery. Still practice going beyond your
comfort level towards creating a healing situation. Do something that you
would usually not dare to do, of course that must be within reason and
legal. No questions this evening. I am due elsewhere, but know that I am at
your side as your group partner and I feel most grateful for all that you
have taught me. My love goes with you. Until next week, shalom.