[tmtranscripts] New CDA Class session #6

[Daniel]

New Class - Session #6
1-14-2000 


***Levona (T/R Jill):   Good evening.  This is Levona.  I would like to 
begin tonight’s class with some instruction of how to make the class 
teachings the most beneficial for those of you who are participating.  By 
participating I mean anyone who is reading these lessons on a regular 
basis.  There will be times when the teachers will give you a specific 
assignment to be aware of something for a whole week, or to practice 
something for a whole week.  We strongly urge you to do so because it is 
the practice that makes perfect, to use one of your own adages.  There 
may be times, however, when we do not give a specific assignment.  Yet we 
give a concept that hopefully will provoke thought and deeper thought on 
your part.  So the assignment, unspoken, may be to read the lesson daily 
and ponder it for your own personal insights.  We are aware that you have 
set up a computer list.  We would also encourage you to share your 
processes of thought or experiences of doing a specific assignment.  In 
that way the education we are giving is broadened by each human 
perspective; and each human perspective and experience is valuable.

The topic for tonight is grief and grieving.  Grief is a very heavy 
feeling.  It is more intense than being sorrowful; more intense than 
being sad, and grief is associated with a human being experiencing a loss 
of some sort.  With the best of intentions your culture has taught you to 
“stand tall, have a stiff upper lip, don’t cry, be strong.”  Those are 
all good human qualities but there are times when they are not healthy.  
When anyone experiences a severe loss, from their perspective, the 
greatest gift you can give them along with your loving compassion is the 
OK-ness of crying, of sobbing, of telling of their grief.  Grief held in 
never gets resolved, and that person will suffer from their loss the rest 
of their life; and no matter what the loss, from the universe 
perspective, no loss is meant to halt a person’s passion for life for the 
rest of their lifetime.  I would encourage all of you this week to 
explore whether or not you have experienced grief yet in your lifetime, 
and if you have, to look at the grieving process you went through.  Did 
you honor the feelings attached to that loss, or did you bury them?  Is 
there still some of that loss tugging at you, keeping you angry, or 
bitter, or feeling cheated, or feeling some other type of hurt?  If there 
is, then now is the time to honor the rest of the pain inside.  There are 
many ways.  You may do it alone or with a partner, a friend, a family 
member.  I would encourage all of you this week to look at what grief 
means to you personally, and if there is any grief still remaining inside 
of you, to seek your own personal avenues to let the rest of it out.  
When we hold in heaviness and fill all the spaces of our consciousness 
and our body with that heaviness, there is no room for the Light of Love 
to come in and heal.  So it is a necessary step to grieve until there are 
no more grief feelings; no more tears; for then you have opened up the 
space to receive your Father’s Love to have what you call “a new lease on 
life.”  This will be a challenging assignment and I would encourage you 
to share your experiences on your new (computer) list.  That is all for 
now. 


***Solonia (T/R Daniel):    Greetings dear ones.  This is Solonia.  I 
would like you to consider tonight that there are indeed different types 
of grief and consequently different types of grieving.  The natural 
inclination for humans is to attribute the grieving process to instances 
of the death of a loved one.  I would ask you to open your perspectives 
somewhat to stretch them to include any loss of a loved one, be it 
through death, through incompatibility, through changes in life focus, 
through changes in living situations.  There is much grief in your world 
that is caused by family separations.  Children, being incapable of 
understanding adult situations and adult perspectives, are often 
subjected to many layers of internal grief for which they have not the 
tools to make adjustments.  When a parent for one reason or another 
leaves the immediate sphere of influence of the child, it causes grief.  
Depending on the circumstances and the understandings of the custodial 
parent, this grief may be buried in the child due to exhibitions of 
anger, revenge, and hatred.  In these instances the child is not allowed 
the opportunity for healthy grieving.  Grieving is a necessary tool for 
personal compensation of loss.  

Many of you have grief buried deeply within your experiences, and it is 
difficult for you to be willing to honestly face this grief and to 
observe it from a more mature perspective.  I would say to you that as 
long as you keep this grief buried, it will continue to influence you in 
your decision-making process.  So many times the Master said, “Fear not,” 
and here in particular is an instance where I would reiterate his most 
excellent words.  You will not die from facing your griefs.  You will not 
experience personality fragmentation from facing your griefs.  And I can 
assure you that your world will not fall apart when you face your griefs. 
 You must allow yourselves to go to places within that you have 
previously feared, for you must allow yourself to grieve before you will 
be able to fully heal.  

Grieving is rarely something that humans will choose to do willingly.  
Your remembrance of grieving and the processes that it entailed can make 
it difficult for you to agree to going to that place again.  Often some 
of your medicines may have a very bitter taste to them, yet they aid you 
in the healing process of your body.  So you take them, anyway.  Grieving 
can have a bitter taste to it also, but it is a medicine for the soul.  
It is a tonic that aids in healing.  Take this week’s assignment 
seriously, my dear ones, and go to places within that you have refused to 
go before.  Those are my words for this evening.